Social Isolation and Loneliness

About You

What is your first name? — so we can make this personal

What is your current life stage?

Still working full-time

Retired or semi-retired

Widowed or recently lost a spouse

Caregiver at home

Dealing with health limitations

How long have you been feeling socially isolated or lonely?

Recently — weeks or a couple of months

About a year

Several years

Most of my life — it is my default

Your Connection Assessment

How many people could you call right now if you needed real support — not just conversation?

3 or more people

1 or 2 people

Maybe one — I'm not sure they'd be available

No one — I would handle it alone

How often do you have a meaningful, face-to-face or phone conversation with someone you care about?

Daily or almost daily

A few times a week

Once a week or less

Rarely — days or weeks go by without real conversation

Do you feel that the people in your life truly know and understand you?

Yes — I feel deeply known by at least one person

Somewhat — superficial relationships mostly

Rarely — I keep most of myself hidden

No — I feel invisible or misunderstood by everyone

How often do you feel a genuine sense of belonging — that you are part of something larger than yourself?

Regularly — I have community, faith, or group I belong to

Occasionally — it comes and goes

Rarely — I feel like an outsider in most settings

Never — I feel no sense of belonging anywhere

Your Daily Experience of Loneliness

How often do you go through a full day without speaking to another person in any meaningful way?

Almost never — I have regular human contact

Sometimes — a few times a month

Often — at least once a week

Most days — silence is my daily experience

When you are around other people, how often do you still feel lonely?

Rarely — being with people feels genuinely fulfilling

Sometimes — it depends on the people

Often — I feel alone even in a group

Always — crowds make it worse, not better

Has loneliness affected your physical health, sleep, motivation, or outlook on life?

No noticeable impact

Mildly — some sadness or low motivation

Significantly — it affects my daily life

Deeply — it is affecting my health and my will to engage

Barriers & What You Want Most

What is the biggest barrier keeping you from deeper connection with others?

Mobility or health limits my ability to get out

I live far from family or in an isolated area

Fear of rejection or not knowing how to start

Pride or self-reliance — I don't like needing people

Loss — I lost the people I was closest to

I don't trust people easily

Nothing specific — I just haven't made it a priority

What kind of connection do you most deeply want right now?

Closer connection with family

One deep, trusted friendship

A community or group that feels like home

A faith community where I truly belong

Connection through shared purpose or service

To simply feel known and understood

Your Loneliness Level

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Overall Connection Score

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out of 100

Quality of Relationships

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out of 100

Frequency of Contact

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out of 100

Sense of Belonging

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out of 100

Your Connection Profile

Your Personalized Connection Plan

What This Means for You

This calculator is for personal reflection and awareness. It is not a clinical diagnosis of loneliness or depression. If you are experiencing severe isolation, hopelessness, or thoughts of self-harm, please reach out to your doctor or call 988 (Suicide and Crisis Lifeline). You are not meant to do life alone — and help is closer than it feels right now.

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